In
my experience, people usually have relationships and because human beings will
always mess up there is always a long line of broken hearts. After this,
everyone says the same thing ‘I’m through with people, imma do me’ *Kevin Hart
voice*. This works for a while for some longer than others but eventually they bounce
back because as everyone knows, no man is an island.
I
go through the motions from time to time when I cannot keep my emotions in
check but mostly I’ll prepare myself for any disappointment so that I don’t
have to shut out everyone only to bounce back in shame because the reality is,
we can not survive on our own.
As
possible as it is to fall in love with two people at the same time is the same
way in which it is possible to have people around you and still be an island.
As human beings, we are creatures of routine, needy, selfish, always seeking approval
and validation which we are not able to give ourselves therefore it is almost
stupid to try and live by oneself.
Someone
once said, ‘I would break up with a person not because I had found someone else
but because I was tired of wasting my time on that person’. I refuse to accept
that having people in your life automatically means that one is not island.
What is the point if you cannot share your dreams, desires, fears,
frustrations, et al with these people? Do the people know your favorite drink,
your thoughts on zodiac signs, what your perfect afternoon looks like, whether
you cry when it thunders?
Only
one line of thought overwhelms me in this moment. Is there then a point to any
of this farce? Wouldn’t life be of better quality if we simply let man be an
island? What if man was happier being an island? This will probably be
achievable at a point when teleportation is a reality so until then, one must
allow people in one’s life if one intends to have anything close to a decent
life.
I’m
guessing this all goes back to the issue of trust and the truth. Although the
truth has a lot to do with trust because that’s the only way anyone will
believe it as the truth so mostly the issue is trust. Imagine a world where we only communicated
with people we trust in all (alright, may be not all but sufficient) aspects of
life may be people wouldn’t fail their exams because they were fond of the
tutors therefore are more willing to learn and monies would not embezzled
because the people in authority cared enough to have the citizens’ wellbeing at
heart.
The
absence of trust however makes everyone determined to play the longest con. Who
will be the last man standing? Who will win in this game of survival for the
fittest? Who is the fairest of them of all? (Okay, that escalated quickly).
Until
people are not stepping on others to get to the top but are holding hands to
reach the top, not getting enjoyment from the pain of others but making real
efforts to reduce or stop this pain, man will continue to be an island and keep
masquerading as not being able to be one.