When I was in O level, I hated history so much that I
stopped really reading for exams. Of course I’d read because no one wants to
fail but it wasn’t the same effort I put into revising for the Mathematics exams.
This all began when on more than one occasion I joined discussion groups and
studied very hard only to get the results where I had a 56% and everyone else
had above 80%. What sorcery was that I said? And that was the end of it.
So many times I will see someone tweet or mention that if
someone does not like *I don’t want to use the love word loosely* you as much
as you like them, then you are better off without them in your life. For a
while I also agreed with this but now I know better.
There is that employee who gets paid more than you do but
the entire world knows that you do much more work in a week than they do in a
month and we continue to seem surprised at this.
How about the very intelligent young people who have not yet
got that lucky break in their dream jobs because they do not have the required
experience on their CVs. Someone help me understand how a 23 year old is
supposed to have 3 years experience for a job.
The people who never read in school but always ended up
passing even when those that sacrificed partying for late nights in the reading
room barely made it or ended up having retakes.
I was lucky that I managed to pass my O level History exams
even with the sketchy reading I used to do and may be that emphasizes the point
I am trying to make but failing miserably *Tell me something new*.
Whether we want to accept it or not, there is always a
settler and a reacher *How is this not a real word? Sigh!* in every
relationship regardless of its nature. There will be times where you will like
someone so much you smile at the mention of their name and for whatever reason
they do not feel the same way. Many times they will like you but not as much as
you like them and that’s when people will say things like ‘You’re better off
without them’. Sometimes that’s just it, you can’t live without them. May be it
is okay to kweesibaku muntu within
limit of course. So what if you text first, always initiate meet ups, share
your burdens and what not? As long as the person does seem okay with this
arrangement *There’s no formula for finding out* then there is nothing wrong.
Most likely, you have this kind of relationship with someone else where you are
the settler and the cycle continues.
People are so happy to throw the ‘life is unfair’ phrase
around from time to time but when it really matters ie employment,
relationships, academics, they are quick to throw this to the wind. Life is
unfair and as far as my 23 years have shown me, it is not about to change. How
about we embrace that and at least try to live it?